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We as human beings are happy that we have gained technological advancements to send humans to the moon. But what a great shame of us that we can’t even send our girls and women to the nearby park after 7 pm. Even that woman has completed her Ph.D. but to send her outside the home a five-year-old child will be employed to go after her. It doesn’t matter whether she is a race champion or a pilot, she is taught to walk slowly to the wedding stage to show her simplicity and let her man comfort himself with a fake predominant feeling. It's not the pandemic that has highlighted the word ‘curfew’, but in India, 48 % population has been going for curfew after 7 pm for decades. Right to freedom, Right to Equality, Right to Expression, etc. have no place in reality.

If someone tries to figure out a place where a woman is highly unsafe, a frequent answer would hit the mind and that is at ‘outside’. But the data tells another story. 70 percent of women in this largest democratic country face Domestic Violence every year. Again if we start comparing the abuse cases between rural and urban areas, rural parts win the competition. Does it provide an excuse that people in urban parts are much educated than rural parts? If we jump on to the rape cases, then 90 % of them have involved family members or known ones. Each year 500 thousand female foeticide cases have emerged. According to a Wire report, selective abortion of female fetuses leads to the ‘missing’ of 63 million women from the population. And all these crucial decisions are taken in homes and guess what, the rationale behind this, ‘continuation of a generation’.

India has a population of 1.36 billion out of which 52% are male and 48% are female. Then what's the reason behind the fact that this 48% has become India’s second priority. The majority would say that women are weaker than men in many ways. But this statement is itself just a hoax for science. The most visible differences are the evidence for the continuation of the reproductive cycle. So, it can be arguable that women are purposely weakened by an unknown force in society. And the mission ‘mute a girl’ starts right from the child's age. Say if it’s a girl, then advising her to play games involving barbie dolls and many more which are symbols of caring and cooperation. But a boy child is developed under every possible aggressive and competitive environment. These are created choices that are often observed in every place in India irrespective of religion, caste, and language. The old and poised stereotypes on women play a crucial role in changing one individual’s mindset. Crying like a girl is one of the most bogus arguments to downsize a man’s emotions and a woman’s dignity. And suddenly there comes an age when elders would advise girls when and where to go and come, but the same rules are not imposed on a boy. A man can urinate anywhere in the street but a woman can’t wear short skirts.

The theory of rejection can be preferred especially in countries like India to understand rapes in a better way. A man becomes more vulnerable when he is rejected by a woman, no matters what the circumstances are. Psychology has been constantly changed and diverted by society. Let’s consider an example, the word ‘Pati’ in India means Master or God of whom, of course, ‘Patni’, the slave. It would be considered a sin if a wife raises questions against her husband.

The virginity of a woman comes in the first priority of her goodness. There’s a tradition of using white bed sheets on the day of the first night of a couple and all of these is to check the purity of a woman. There’s never a question on the purity of a man, and seriously I don’t know the reason behind this thing.

According to an ASER report, Parents prefer private schools for boys and govt. schools for girls. The literacy rate of boys is 75% whereas for girls it’s 53.7%. One typecast behind this is that girls are bound to marry and leave the parental home someday, so why wasting money on their career and education when they have a fixed career as a housewife. And if a woman does something beyond expectations through her talent and hard work, then the credit goes to a man like the parents saying,“ Thank god we have a boy in the name of a girl.”

Every one out of three women in India is a victim of internal violence. The violence can be physical, financial, mental, social, etc. The sole purpose is to weaken the very soul of a woman. There have been researches on this structure of violence. It includes three phases i.e first, the Honeymoon phase, second, the Tension phase (often includes mental and financial tortures), third, the Violent phase. At times, the male partner or his family members try to convince the woman that it won’t happen again just to make assure themselves that she won’t complain. Most times it can be observed that ‘Male Aggression’ emerges as the biggest excuse weapon. But in reality, there’s no such kind of phenomenon. It can be proven with a simple question. Why an angry man never gets his hands on his female boss, a woman worker, his mother, or any other woman? The answer, he knows where his territory and capability lie on and this knowledge has been created in his mind by his own family, friends, and known relatives.

Our constitution gives the right to gender equality but even in the 21st century, our society denies believing this fact. It will be fooling ourselves by demanding solutions to these problems without asking our parents and elders this simple question, “Why?”. It’s time to change the culture of psychology.

It’s been rightly said, “We can’t understand their pain unless and until we suffer the same.”